A recent report, by Cigna, found nearly half of Americans feel lonely on a regular basis. For those over the age of 45, the majority of lonely individuals report feeling that way for 6 or more years. Studies have found that loneliness is associated with a reduced lifespan similar to smoking 15 cigarettes per day, and the absence of or poor social relationships increases your risk of heart disease and stroke by as much as 30%.

Humans are social creatures. We were built to be in relationships and utilize therapy services. When we are alone, we subconsciously become more aware of threats in our environment as a means of self-preservation. This vigilance triggers the stress response and results in increased cortisol levels that then negatively impact physical and psychological health.

Learn how to participate in therapy services to reduce loneliness:

When I speak with clients about loneliness, most are geographically distant or estranged from family, and they have a difficult time making friends; therefore, I usually suggest participating in specialized therapy services. In our culture of social media and online gaming, many have numerous cyber friends, but those connections lack the intimacy that in-person relationships offer still leaving a gap in social fulfillment.

Also, it is important to understand that loneliness is part of the human condition. The more that you grow comfortable with yourself and ease into the idea of solitude or opening up to a therapist, the less being alone will hurt.

Here are some helpful ideas to reduce your loneliness and connect to others:

1. Volunteer for a local organization

2. Join a book, movie, or walking club

3. Adopt a pet

4. Go out for dinner or coffee

5. Attend a yoga or art class

6. Plan a trip to see family or friends

7. Invite a neighbor for lunch

For long-term results, focus on developing at least one close friendship whether it be with someone you met through therapy service or not — is up to you. It’s not the quantity of friendships, but the quality that makes a significant difference in reducing loneliness. If you find none of these solutions helpful, or you feel you are blocking possible connections in your life — then consider scheduling an appointment with an experienced therapist.

To address any underlying concerns that might be keeping you lonely, or if you have any questions please contact Dr. Stephanie Jacobs, Ph. D. and Psychologist at Elevated Health.

About the Author

Stephanie Jacobs is a Psychologist who assists direct primary care patients in developing effective coping strategies through managing chronic health conditions to improve their overall wellness. With years of experience and training in the industry, she has worked in a number of areas including university counseling, cancer treatment, private practice, and primary medical care. Having a strong ambition to help those in need, Stephanie focuses on treating anxiety, PTSD, depression, chronic health issues, death, dying, and bereavement. 

Stephanie received her doctorate in Counseling Psychology from Purdue University.